As I sit here this morning having coffee- I am setting out to give some advice that’s taken me forty years to figure out!! I have never claimed to be perfect or have a perfect family. Although, I do love big! I am a highly sensitive empath. I can find the best in anyone! These very qualities led my husband and I to fostering and adopting!

Crazy to think I can find the best in others and be so hard on myself! In years past I was extremely hard on myself~ I had to realize I am a work-in-progress and human too! I am proud of how far I have come in allowing boundaries from toxic situations.

I wanted to believe that these hard circumstances would just handle themselves. It’s hard to see ourselves “bird’s-eye view”.. take ourself out of ourself and see from another’s perspective. I honestly feel that self help and leading by example has become one of my strengths!!

I am writing this entry as I go through a very hard time with some family members. What I do know is that addiction/drug and alcohol abuse has for sure been at the forefront of a lot of the hard parts of my journey! I myself am over two years sober and more years clean.. after an eight year battle with addiction to prescription diet pills!

The best advice I can give is to do your best to not say things that hurt others when going through a hard chapter/recovering from a traumatic event. Being ugly is a reflection of yourself.. so why not just be kind! You simply just have to keep putting your best foot forward and avoid getting caught up in others difficult experiences. It is their journey and if they ask for your advice- try to be gentle.

I would definitely say I have weighed in more than enough with our own kiddos. It was a job the good Lord trusted me with. When raising kids.. it inevitable that your qualities definitely shine through them! I will never regret helping others. Being a humanitarian and voice for the underdog is something I will never sway from.

I don’t want to make time to get sucked into messy, ugly, hurtful scenarios! The best thing I can do is keep pressing forward and remember it is my job to steer my own life.

The single best advice I can give is to figure out your own core values and motivators!! Find ways to have more of what makes you happy and less of what doesn’t!

We are all capable of change at any time. After three years of continuous talk therapy, I know myself better. Talk therapy helps you to have profound insights about yourself!

Many of us are taught that asking for help is weak. But acknowledging that we’re human — that we can’t always get it right or know all things — is actually a sign of strength and flexibility!

..So if you never get a proper apology, gaslighting and lying takes place, they don’t ever understand how their behavior makes others feel, they think they are superior to others, they see themselves as a victim of their own behavior… do your best to understand that is on them~ not you!!

We can only control ourselves! We can change, adapt and live our best life, even while going through hard things!!

Stay Rosy, Amber

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