Today I write about a beautiful person, Kris.. who has shown her real from the first time I met her!! We really just “click”! She normally glows with happiness, even though she’s shared with me that she’s gone through some really tough shit- more than the average person! .. she’s become a good friend of mine! I have the privilege/honor of being her hairdresser!

She is going through the worst possible thing anyone could imagine going through! She lost her youngest child, her handsome son, Vance who was seventeen years young!💔 His life was taken doing what he loved~ cruising in his Camaro with some of his closest friends.

I have no doubt she will find herself faking happiness to get through the most heartbreaking time of her life. I also know she will squeeze all the good out of the most devastating time of her life!

In sitting with Kris.. in hopes to carry some of her grief this past Monday, she shared with me that she has a similarity as me. She seems to be clairvoyant- a person who seems to have a supernatural  ability to perceive events in the future or beyond normal sensory  contact. She has had nightmares over the years that Vance had left her. All I can say is, no wonder she holds him so close to her heart! I know how special he was to her and all those that knew him. I see it in all the posts that have been shared and in the actions of his peers. Our kids are feeling deeply about the loss of Vance. Our youngest son, Ike has called every morning since learning about Vance’s car accident- going over all the details, shock and despair.

I write this entry to show BIG LOVE FROM MY MOM HEART!

I have heard that you must know sadness to know happiness. I know it is accurate that the best times of your life become the most memorable and in the blink of an eye it all can come to a close.

Kris,

When the days are hard and you want to give up.. remember to just show up! Talk it out, seek help from others, don’t hold it all in!

Show up for the ones that you love.. especially Vance!

Allow yourself grace, care, and love .. just as you do for others!

Allow yourself time to grieve.. cry, scream, sleep.. and don’t forget to eat!

Celebrate all that your beautiful boy was and all he’ll be remembered for!

I mean, I didn’t really get to know Vance, other than hearing you gleam about all he was and what he was accomplishing!

I can’t help but think- he must have got it from his momma!! 😉

I look forward to our friendship continuing to grow and the lessons you will continue to share!

It is the realest of people that I am drawn to.. you are SO REAL.. no fakery involved!

I know that those that endure travesty and trauma and can overcome it, have a new look on life!

Life is fragile and delicately woven.. as human we are woven by all the experiences and seasons we encounter!

In closing, I just want to say your spark has always been inspiring! I pray the good Lord helps you to keep shining!

This poem I found really makes me think of you and the bittersweet loss of your youngest child, Vance!! I will always see him as the happy lively dude in the video you shared with me .. that you took within hours of him leaving earth-side!

Gone Too Soon

My child, gone too soon –

Your brief life a flickering candle

That lit my world before being snuffed out.

I cling to memories like lifelines – Your sweet smile, your joyful laugh –

Etched on my heart forever,

Filling the vacuum of your loss.

My precious one, though far from sight Your spirit lives within my sorrow, Turning grief’s bitter cup to wine,

Reminding me –

Love is stronger than death,

Legacies matter more than the length of days

So I’ll carry your memory always,

Letting your brief light

Continue shining within me,

Guiding me home.

A TRIBUTE TO A MOM OF MORE THAN JUST HER OWN!

Tomorrow is not promised to, young or old alike.. And today may be the last chance You get to hold your loved one tight.

Let the losses we experience be the reason to show up and to be the best versions of ourselves!

Stay Rosy, Amber 🤍🤟

#Halfwaythere #HalfwayToAnywhereYouPutYourmindTo