Destructive self-criticism

Destructive self-criticism is exactly what I am facing at this point in my writing endeavours! I am trying to allow myself self-compassion. Ironic.. that I am facing self doubt, considering I have been really proud of the last couple of entries.. even if I am just starting to get some following.

At this point.. I think it could be good to ask for some feedback. Especially from those that follow my blog and and social media. PLEASE tell me what about my experiences would you like to know more about?

I am a very open book and I would love to write more about what interests people in my network!

Self-criticism can get in the way of your creativity and make you believe you are not good enough.

I feel I should elaborate a bit more about the current challenge I am facing:

I am feeling a big disconnect with my husband/life partner/business partner. Maybe it’s just because I am scared for him step away from our salon business we have been operating together for the past twelve years. He is in the final steps of becoming a realtor. At this point he’s just waiting for his realtors license to come in the mail! I am over-the-top proud of him because this has been a long time dream of his. I also am his biggest fan and I want nothing but the best for his career goals. He has assured me that he is going to continue at the salon just as we’ve planned. We plan to shift gears and travel as much as possible by Feb. 2023, while we are still forty. My birthday is Feb. 22nd and John’s is March 18th. This is within nine months of our youngest graduating highschool!

Writing and blogging is the side-hustle I have chosen and I guess it’s safe to say I feel like it may be nothing more than a hobby. I would love for it to become more than that that. I am going to continue because I love to relate, encourage and inspire people. I just am not sure where this whole idea will go.

So.. I could go more in to depth about the self doubt and current struggle I am experiencing. Although, I have never been the girl that is looking for self pity!

I am going to go ahead and say I am having a couple of “off” days and transparency is my approach. So if you are experiences anything along these lines I encourage you to do your best and forget the rest!

I do know.. like Sandra Bullock says, “I’ve made peace with the fact that the things that I thought were weaknesses or flaws were just me. I like them.”

I have to remember that being a highly sensitive, empath, who struggles with overly compulsive personality disorder… can actually be some of my strengths. I now realize it makes me relatable and honestly it’s just who I am!

So before we start down the path of destructive self-criticism, we must remind ourselves how far we have come and where we are headed and keep pressing forward, even on an “off” day!

Believing, we are halfway to anywhere we put our mind to!

Yours in Style, Amber

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  1. Rosalie

    (Hello, Amber! This advice is lengthy but hopefully beneficial) If you really want some advice on how to improve your blog, I think you should take a short break from your writing and do some soul searching. You seem to have a goal of making weekly posts but you unfortunately lack eloquence in each new entry. A good story has a main idea expressed by a beginning, middle, and end. I feel your blogs have a title followed by an incohesive stream of conscious that is lost in a miasma of virtual babbling.
    I will go a bit further and also challenge you to practice better integrity from your presence online into reality. To quote Shakespeare… loosley: “Your words fly up, your thoughts remain below. Words without thoughts never to heaven go.”
    It means actions speak louder than words. One can speak of positivity and advocacy, but it means nothing if you do not live by these truths. Your blogs seem more like journal entries which, to me, are personal and not public. You could benefit from reading some work from popular bloggers so that your writing can become more relatable to other people. Then, find a style of writing that works for you. If that does not concern you, I guess I don’t understand the purpose of your blog. Truly hope you will benefit from these words of constructive criticism. Good luck!

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    1. Amber Klassen

      Thank you for your response! I agree with a lot of what you expressed! I am trying to bring all my efforts together and build the habits to get it rolling. My goal is to be transparent, honest, real, loving. It’s definitely a process! I was truly not in a good mind frame when I wrote my entry this past Thursday 😳 I am confident that I am moving in the right direction! Thank you again!

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